Sunday, March 16, 2008

Feminine Radiance

Feminine radiance is everywhere... in the feel of the sun on my skin... in the scent of a spring breeze... in the gentle gait of a confident woman. It emanates beauty. Magnificent beauty. And every being in the presence of this femininity is changed. What a glorious picture of true woman.

"When a woman is relaxed in her feminine radiance, she is like beautiful music or a warm ocean breeze"... another quote from David Deida’s book, The Way of the Superior Man.

This week there were some instances of tension in my life and I felt myself falling into a more masculine response of aggression. And I felt like in that moment, I was losing my essence and my beauty. Anyone that knows me knows that I am a fairly masculine-ish woman... at least I think I am. I feel fairly level-headed about my emotions... I like to be covered in dirt... I spit (very well, by the way). But it doesn’t mean that I lack femininity. I still exude a very genuine feminine spirit... of classic and quiet strength (at least that is my hope). And in this moment, I felt that I needed to encourage that feminine nature to rise up and overcome my momentary frustration. To allow me to settle peacefully into my own moment and to force myself to be fully present in the moment in the way that I wanted to be. And I didn’t want to exhibit aggression or frustration. I wanted to exhibit steady, consistent beauty and unshakable-ness.

Now, it worked, I think. But I wonder if I wasn’t being real with myself... having to force a response that wasn’t natural. Hmmm...

Sunday, March 2, 2008

How To Tell If The Girl Is Not Interested: Part One

So, you go out on the first date. It seems great. You really like her. It seems like she might be into you, but you aren't too sure. She said yes to the second date... so she must be interested, right? No. Don't kid yourself.

She either truly is interested in you OR she feels pretty uncomfortable saying, 'I am completely disinterested in pursuing a relationship with you.' So, on the second date, she starts to employ a genius plan. This plan allows you, the date, to get a sense that the two of you really don't belong together - releasing her from the obligation to tell you that she's not into you. Here are the tell-tale signs that this is occurring.

Note: the following situations have actually happened.
1. She calls you 'Buddy'.
2. After the first date, she doesn't call or text for a week.
3. She blatantly admits to wearing dirty clothes. Not just dirty clothes, but really, really needs-to-be-washed jeans.
4. She (forcefully) pays for the second date to release herself from feeling obligated to date you.
5. You ask her out for another date and she says, 'no' or gives you the old tight-lipped nod.
6. The conversation turns to how burly she is and naturally, how wimpy you are.
7. She talks about how she's still not over her ex.
8 You mention making out and she says, "Well, I don't know about that..."
9.The ultimate date-diss: she wears high-waisted pants.
10. She gives you her 'other' number - 719. 359. 8077